The 3 Steps to your Most Empowered Self

To be brave, means to have courage.

To have courage means to have confidence.

And confidence means to have belief in yourself.


It’s not those who can get the laws of the universe to bend around them, it’s those who believe, deep down, in the possibility for their lives, in the ultimate possible fate for their life which seems so close and clear in their heart.


So how do you get to a point where you can clearly see the ultimate possibility of your life? When you live in courage and not fear all that is possible?


It all starts by getting to know who you are, deep down, in the fiber of your being. How you were made, those unchangeables that just are; that which makes you unique and powerful when you're in alignment with who you were designed to be.


We often start with what beliefs. How do you think the world works? What are the experiences in life that have informed you of the "laws" of life? Which have you created and which beliefs did you inherit or were taught?


This is what coaches are looking for when they are speaking with you. Strong beliefs that are keeping the blinders on - limiting what you can see that is possible for yourself and for others. Coaches hear your story and sense where there is a charge; it's often in those places that micro traumas happen and a belief is formed. Seeing our patterns and beliefs outside our heads and through someone else’s eyes is invalualbe. And there is no other place to do this than in connection with another who is on the outside of our everyday lives.


It’s only then that you can begin to see the difference between what is true for you vs. who you have had to become for approval, acceptance, success, love, etc...


And, often, we are so scared of our best selves. It's as if we can sense how powerful we are and that if we really applied ourselves to a life of truth and wholeness we'll actually be seen for who we are, fully! That carries such vulneratbility and requires courage. It's easier to be rejected when you feel someone doesn't really know you. But when they can see you, all of you, it stings so much worse when another doesn't see the magic in who we are.


To prepare yourself for your ultimate expression, remember that with vulneratbilty comes leadership. You cannot separate the two. When you step into who you are, honest and true, you invite others to do the same. Often I find that people are less judgementmental of those who claim their truth and more envious of their clarity and the freedom that comes with boldly being who you are.


If you decide to dig deep and begin to examine your beliefs, you’ll find a whole new world opens up. You’ll find joy, light, hope, peace, aspiration, and inspiration to become who you are. A vision for the ultimate possibility of your life begins to emerge. And an acceptance of the parts of yourself you wish would go away creeps in, slowly but assuredly, helping you see that all of you, every single bit, is part of your design, is part of your magic.


There may be no better feeling than to be at home in who you are. To arrive at a deep knowing of your authentic self and how you want to make your imprint on the world is a gift you accept for yourself and give countless times to others who are touched by truth.


You literally begin to change the world as we know it. You step into something bigger, something meant to be, and you unlock the first tiny step for someone else to do the same.


This isn’t easy, it takes time and focus to question everything we've taken as truth. But it’s so freeing. When you examine the way you believe the world to work and your place in it, you show up in the world feeling grounded and bound to your future by your truth. Any struggle comes with a promise for better. One bad day, one bad week, doesn’t sway you. You know it is part of the journey, and you know what lies on the other side.


I’ve found a simple way to start down the path. There are three steps. I call it The Empowerment Formula. And it isn’t complex. I’ve come to believe that if you can simply say yes to starting, to the possibility that’s on the other end, then you can absolutely change your life for the better. No matter what life situation you are in now. It all begins with one little yet courageous step.


And the best part, following this formula gives you clarity in everything you do and helps you course-correct with conviction. Feeling assured supports confidence and follow-through.


I am not suggesting a quick-fix. This isn’t that. This is a promise of simplicity. What it takes to live with clarity, purpose and fulfillment isn’t complicated, but getting to the yes — and then getting to the heart of what is deep-down you — sometimes can be. And, in my opinion, it’s not a journey to be taken alone. It’s one that requires some outside eyes to reflect that which we don’t see. Coaches being the best partner, an unbiased third party, trained to guide you through the process gently and not let any shortcuts compromise the truth-finding experience.


So here it is, the three-part formula for living your best life: