I have found myself repeating a few words of advice to clients over the years. These are critical points of awareness that unlock new thinking and perspectives in my clients - as if a lot of people share similar blocks or mental patterns and need one little statement to have them seeing the word, their world, differently.
I began to wonder if it was a type of demographic belief system that would make these 10 statements of advice applicable to so many of my clients. Many of which share somewhat of a similar demographic: in their 40s and 50s, professional, VPs and CEOS, all in major US cities. Or if these are statements that are simply universal, soul-truth statements that get out of our heads and into our wise hearts.
What I know for sure is you'll get what you need when reading through the words of advice I gathered here for you. As if you choice to open this blog post was the first step to receive the medicine you need, and perhaps it's right below. One or maybe a few of these statements will hit home, pop out off the page, or give you a huge sense of relief. That's your clue, take those words of advice and run with them.
Here we go with the "top 10 best words of advice I most often share with clients":
When you know the truth, act. There are moments in life when you'll reach full clarity. Clarity so absolute that you can feel it in your bones. You must act when you have this clarity - that is your only job in life, really. To act when you know the truth. As if our whole lives are a quest to know the truth about anything and everything. So when you find it, even if just for a moment, act! Save yourself years or a lifetime of being out of sync and get aligned.
Easy decisions, hard life. Hard decisions, easy life. - Jerzy Gregorek The idea nothing new, but said well: investing in yourself now pays off later. Whether this be with exercise, education, self inquiry, investments, etc. If you can cultivate the discipline now to do what you know is needed you'll enjoy the fruits of that investment for years to come, enjoying a much happier life. In contrast, if we allow ourselves to take the road of avoidance we trade in earned bliss for continual conflict (with ourselves and with life).
Replace "but" with "and". This one is a simple reframing tool to support a positive mindset and get you into inspired action - which is where all good advances in our life start. In example: I want to reach my goals but I don't have time => defeated, excuse. I want to reach my goals AND I don't have time => problem to solve, opportunity.
Your answer lies in what feels most expansive. Someone recently asked me how to know when it's time to leave a job or role. The simple answer is if you're asking that question the answer is probably yes. But if you want a tool, you can use a somatic coaching approach. Tune into how you feel when you think about your job or role. Do you feel expansive, open, lighter? Or do you feel closed off, trapped, boxed in, hunched over? The right answer lies in what feels most expansive.
Be the witness. Sometimes in life we can get caught up in the emotions of it all - emotions are not a bad thing but they do shrink our perspective and heighten our sensitivity. There is wisdom in watching the game being played. This is especially true at work, when we are triggered or otherwise unclear. Zoom out of your own place in the scene and be the witness. You'll see things much clearer and have an easier time accessing your inner wisdom.
You must touch all 4 corners of the room to find the middle. This statement is shared when clients are afraid to step out of their comfort zone and explore something new, especially when they aren't 100% sure it's what they want to pursue. I explain, using this statement, that exploration outside of who we know ourselves to be is how we understand who we truly are. You can experiment and step outside of your normal way of going in life in a safe and healthy way that create opportunities for contrast and resonance. This is how we find our way.